Happy Parent, Happy Kid
The most dramatic brain growth spurt after infancy occurs in adolescence. Our brains are biologically wired to seek reward and avoid pain. Some days it may seem your toddler or teen was wired to seek out new ways to defy you and avoid chores. Navigating life through these growing years requires self-discipline and patience.
Well, this is Awkward!
Physically your child will go through several phases, some more awkward than others, and will use cognitive skills with varying degrees of success. The child brain up until age 19 or even later is still developing, and is largely influenced by the limbic system, which controls emotions more than the rational brain. If you thought your kid's behavior was confusing, imagine how he or she feels?
What a relief!
While your toddler, child, adolescent or teenager is learning right from wrong and processing an enormous amount of information, that child of yours needs security. The rules you provide and stability will help them to make better decisions for themselves one day, even if they are fighting you on boundaries today.
Three Tips for Success: The 5-S model!
Stay calm- Take a deep breath and model self-control.
Stay consistent- Don't give up when it gets tough; stay the course.
Stay available- Listen and give your child your most precious gift…your time.
Stay aware- Know who is in your child's life and what is influencing him or her.
Stay true- We have kids to love and teach them love; everything else is extra.
Our biggest competition as parents in raising our children is everything from social media, electronic devices, videos gaming and their peers. We all have busy and active lives, but remember to make time for them, while they still have time for us.
We want to raise brilliant surgeons, chemists, mathematicians and business professionals, and we would love to boast professional soccer players, gymnasts and chess champions but what we need most are kids with kind hearts.
Teaching is more than what we model. Learning is what happens when we inspire someone to personally engage with and adopt the lesson to life. Model the behavior you want to pass on in a loving way and the lesson is more likely to be transformative.