Cat and Mouse Relationships
Asked on Quora: "Is my ex manipulating me?"
"My ex dumped me 2 months ago and we then agreed to be civil (We are not friends) So I safely made it out of the friend zone and everyday I check my phone and he keeps checking up on me asking how i am through out the day! Is he trying to get back with me? Is he manipulating me?"
What does “safely made it out” mean to you? Is this person safe to be in any kind of relationship with or is trust shattered? Manipulation happens when you unknowingly are deceived. Self-denial happens when you allow yourself to be drawn back into an unhealthy cat and mouse relationship.
If this person is neither a trustworthy lover or a true friend, it may be best to avoid contact altogether and truly move on with life, which is too short and precious to waste on someone who did not appreciate you or value you when they had you. If he is “trying to get back” with you, so what? What is in it for you?
Sometimes a person does not want to let go and will keep pestering you to feed their own ego. They like to play cat and mouse games. Don’t take the cheese bait and don’t be a mouse. It may be fun to be chased, but the outcome is never good for the mouse.
The really important question is one only you can answer.