Is Dating Outdated?
Asked on Quora:
What are some top-tips for heterosexual couples wanting to go out on dates without crossing gender equality barriers?
Answered by Tamra Coveau:
Great question! Perhaps, you are wondering about manners and who pays for what. I think that being a traditional gentleman and displaying good manners like opening doors is not just acceptable but very appreciated by most women. Feminism and equality is not about treating the lady you are with like your buddy with whom you may let go of certain manners around. Chivalry Vs. Feminism Equality is about respect. Respect her and be a good listener. Value her for her whole self. As far as paying, I believe that if you ask her out, you should pay. If you are an established couple you may be past "courting her" and ready to make future plans together and should have already discussed gender roles and expectations. 14 Things You Should Know Before Dating a Feminist A woman will usually not be offended by good manners and tradition as long as the expectation is that she owes you nothing in return but her manners. Of course, every woman is different and you should be asking her opinion on everything that is important to you as it becomes appropriate. Communication is vital and should be done with an attitude of learning from the person you are with, about who they are and not just telling them who you are.