Three Big Steps to Healing Your Heart
Posted on May 17, 2015
Asked on Quora:
I just found out that the guy I was with for 2 years (who seemed like an upstanding guy) had his recent picture up on a dating site called meet me. I’m so devastated and will never trust a man again. What should I do?
Answer by Tamra Coveau
First, I am sorry that you are experiencing this devastation, but I want you to know that it will not stop you from takingcontrol of your life starting now. Practically speaking you need to go to your physician and ask to be tested for std’s. This is a time to care of yourself and concentrate on your physical health and emotional healing from this shock and disappointment.
Second, surround yourself with friends and family. A lot of people have dealt with betrayal, and this is not your fault. Sometimes bad things happen to good people. The person you were dating betrayed your trust, and that is about what he feels is lacking in him. If you are able to seek counseling for yourself then do it. Invest in your own life and well-being in everything you do. Do not sit around the house. Get outside, join a gym or do anything worthwhile that you had put off or sacrificed while in this relationship.
Last, take charge and give yourself permission to grieve this loss and then to move on in a way that makes sense to you. These tips are a good starting point, but do only what feels right for you. There are men that are trustworthy and you will trust again, because you will first learn to re-trust yourself and heal your heart. This is one part of your life and not your whole life. This will be a memory and you will move on stronger and open for good things.