Dating Too Many People?
Asked on Quora:
"When dating online, when should I expect someone to stop dating other people after we met?"
Answer by Tamra Coveau:
You should expect someone to stop dating other people when the other person tells you they have stopped dating other people. You of course, have the option to stop dating other people sooner if that feels right to you, but it does not obligate them to do the same. Having one date with someone does not mean you are exclusive.
In fact, it is in your best interest in the beginning to see other people and for any people you are newly dating to do the same. This gives you both a sense of perspective.
You don't want to end up dating someone because you both went into something too quickly and are not right for each other. When you decide to become physically intimate is a whole other subject.
If you intend on sleeping with someone, then you need to clearly communicate what your expectations are in detail. If you are not on the same page with your partner it is best to wait or move on. Sex is worth waiting for and you need to protect your body and heart.
Most people you date will not be "the one." You are looking for certain qualities and character traits that take time to reveal themselves. It is always better to stick to your values and be with someone who will appreciate and respect who you are and what you need.
This might mean that you will have to be patient and willing to be very selective in your dating choices. In the short run, it can be frustrating, but in the long run it will save you time and energy wasted with the wrong person for you. Waiting could also be beneficial to the relationship that develops with the right person for you.