Playing Love Games
Asked on Quora:
"Who should I choose to actually make a good decision?"
Answered by Tamra Coveau:
Whom to Choose?
Neither...For now. You don't get to "choose" a girl like you are ordering steak. You need to stop searching for another person to take away what you don't like about yourself. A new girl is not a do over for your soul. A virgin does not possess magical gifts. If your ego needs an inexperienced girl with no past in order to feel valid as a man, then no one will be enough to inflate it for long.
Love is about acceptance and not judgement. You don't even know these girls, and yet you are picking them apart. The pull you are having between two girls is because to you they are not whole people as individuals, but representatives of two ideas. You are not willing to accept that women are people...
There is no whore, no eternal virgin.
Women are people, complicated, whole, imperfect, loveable, and equal to you. There is no one above or below you. There is no one that can raise you up or bring you down...All that nonsense is in your mind. Everyone has a past and no one owes you an apology for having her own life. When you do choose someone who chooses you back as a partner...It should be just that, a partnership.
Happiest relationships are those that are based on mutual respect, friendship and trust.
Take a little time to yourself and make sure you are only choosing to have people in your life that you respect as people, recognizing that we all need grace. Friendships take time to develop, but they are worth the effort.