Asked on Quora:
"Why does my ex-girlfriend want to see me even after I was disloyal to her?"
Answered by Tamra Coveau
She may have questions or other concerns. She may need to vent. If you have not already given her these opportunities to communicate, then she may have a more difficult time getting closure and moving on. You fear facing up to her and you want to take the easy way out by avoiding contact. You fear she is “preparing something,” because your guilty conscience is telling you that you deserve punishment.
You do not deserve punishment. Your punishment is that you lost someone who cared about you. Your punishment is that you have lost some integrity. You will have to deal with that yourself and learn from your mistake. You have to decide who you are and what kind of relationships you want in the future.
I don’t know the situation, but cheating is never okay. It is not fair to anyone involved, yourself included. Cheaters are not happy healthy people. Chronic cheaters seek the thrill of not getting caught like an addiction. Like any addict, they suffer and bring suffering on everyone who loves them. You need to take a look in the mirror and deal with yourself and then you need to own what you did and apologize to everyone involved, including yourself.
You also need to get closure on this relationship, even if you were the one that wanted out of it. Next time, do yourself a favor and either honor your commitment or be honest about not wanting a commitment in the first place and avoid the drama. It is okay to stay single and never commit, just don’t be a liar and a cheat. There are many people who will tell you it is okay to cheat, and try to justify that behavior. These people are not in healthy happy relationships.