Green Monster Gratitude
Asked on Quora:
"How can I avoid being jealous of my colleague?"
Try not to think of the color green. Try really hard. You can’t help but fixate on what you are trying so hard to not do, right?
So, go with it.
Write down the things you admire about this person, and tell him what you genuinely see as good in him. Thank everyone for their unique contributions.
Now see how you feel. I bet this will release the negativity associated with the good. The negativity comes from holding on to the good. We do this out of fear that we are lacking in some area we recognize in others as possessing. You will find that others will be appreciative that you have validated their strengths. Whether or not they return with an appreciating recognition of your contributions, keep adding value by doing your best.
Sometimes we don’t realize the effect we have on others and the good we are bringing goes without acclaim, at least at that time. Take what you admire in others and learn from it. You will grow as a person when you can integrate their strengths with your own.
Be glad for every learning experience. Sometimes we are the teachers and sometimes we are the students. When we are the teachers we feel wise. When we are the students, we are wise.