• Tamra Coveau

Ladies... Let's Talk About Sex. Men, Listen Up!

Asked on Quora:

"Do girls really talk about sex with their boyfriends and with their (female) friends?"

Answer by Tamra Coveau:

Dear Curious,

What a great question! Of course women talk about sex, relationships, work, health, sexuality, technology, art, food, sexual abuse, love, reproductive choices, politics, and everything else under the sun. Women and men talk about things that are important to them or what is going on in their lives.

Women talk about sex.

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In certain cultures or religions sex talk is taboo inside or outside of the bedroom. This is especially true where women are discriminated against in general.

Women need to talk about sex, sexual health, and sexual abuse.

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It is vitally important that women have equal rights with men and practice free speech without threat of ridicule or harm. It is not good for a society to limit free speech or discriminate against anyone. Society as an organizing power will set rules, customs and laws around their religious and scientific systems that will enforce stereotypes because these rules, customs and laws created those stereotypes.

Breaking the vicious cycle of gender stereotypes and science

Even in cultures where we see sexualized imagery everywhere, there is a lack of education and communication about real sexuality. Women are bombarded with mixed messages in the media about sexuality and it is vital to communicate about how these messages impact women.

Video Warning: 18 and over only. Contains Sexual Imagery, Kinda. Also, language that may not be suitable for children.

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Education cannot happen without communication.

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It is important to discuss our sexual lives, health and well being as a part of our humanity.

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Women should never be shamed for talking about their own sexuality, or denied the freedom to talk about their own bodies, pleasure and choices. Women everywhere should have the right to control their own bodies and lives. Censorship, stereotyping and shaming are all attempts to disempower and destroy someone's sense of worth.

How Women Are Pressured into Being Sexy, But Punished for Being Sexual

So yes, we kiss who we want, we tell who we want. Why wouldn't we?

It's our experience, our bodies, our sexuality, our right and our lives. When people are educated and comfortable with themselves, they can make healthier choices. There is even evidence that talking about sex with your partner leads to better sex! How cool is that?

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The best thing to do when women talk about sex is to listen.

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