Breaking Up is Hard to Do...Over
4/05/2015 Answer by Tamra Coveau:
Dear Fool Me Twice, What you are upset about is that the relationship is over…again. You are trying to figure out how to get her back and you know that if you had messed up the translation she would have been upset and the two of you would be discussing the reasons why you did it and how mad you are at her.
I’m going to let you in on a little secret. You don’t get closure by what someone else does or says. You get closure by what you do or say.
I don’t believe you ever wanted to get revenge or do now. I think you want your hurt to go away. You could have taken the opportunity to tell her off for asking you for help after she hurt you, but you chose to give her a chance to come back to you.
It is okay that you gave her another chance, because you needed to be reminded of who she is and how she treats you. This is a blessing in disguise this need for a translation. You have been mistranslating her for a very long time, and the universe just clarified the definition of your entire relationship. Say thank you and be glad you finally heard it…that is your closure.